When Understanding, Love, and Safety Transform the Past
Healing is not the same as “acting better.”
For years, I thought healing meant behaving differently—stopping bad behavior, being more positive, more grateful, more joyful.
But real healing happens in the places where the original wounds formed.
It happens when:
- your fears are met with compassion
- your shame is met with understanding
- your triggers are met with safety
- your hidden parts are met with welcome
- your story is met with coherence
Healing doesn’t mean you become someone else.
It means you become yourself—your unburdened self.
Through good help, I learned that:
- my patterns made sense
- my adaptations were intelligent, but misguided
- my emotional world was shaped by real history
- I wasn’t broken—I was bruised
- God never saw me as defective
- I was, and always had been, God’s beloved
Some parts of healing involved experiences I never had as a child—like receiving the warmth, attunement, and maternal presence that my early life could not give – through a surrogate mom.
These experiences didn’t erase the old wounds.
They rewrote the nervous system’s expectations for the future.
Healing isn’t instant.
Healing is slow, consistent, relational, and sacred.
Next: “Part V — Vision.”
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